Stones: Pearl, Ruby
The Cancer Woman
Being the first water sign of the zodiac, the Cancer woman is endowed with awesome intuition and imagination. As a child of the Moon, her moods wax and wane like the lunar cycle. Fluid like water, your lunar goddess is both peaceful and passionate. She is a tidal force of perplexing emotion, and can be stubborn, compliant, furious, and docile, all in the same hour. She is complex, fragile, unpredictable and temperamental and needs constant support and encouragement. When She gets the support she needs, she has a tremendous amount to offer in return.
More than any other astrology signs, Cancer needs to be needed. She is sensitive – very sensitive – but not only to her needs, but to the needs of others, making her one of the most sympathetic and caring women of the Zodiac. As deep and tempestuous as the sea, she can also be the calm bay, the gentle beach, always ready to help and nourish those she loves.
Cancer is a sign that is packed full of contradictions. Sometimes caught in a great tide of emotion, sometimes as aloof and icy as a snow maiden. She has an uneasy, delicate temperament and can be prone to wild mood swings and possible temper tantrums. Cancers are easily offended and will sulk and wallow in self-pity when they get hurt. Even if all needs are satisfied, they can be irritable and cranky. She is deeply intuitive, and if she says she doesn’t feel right about someone, it pays to take notice. She won’t know the reason, but she will probably be proved right sooner or later. Similarly, her instinct will tell her at once if someone is to be trusted. This is not about being judgmental – it’s about instincts and feelings.
This sign is the least precise of the zodiac and you’d be hard pressed to spot a Cancer woman amongst the crowd. Not only her moods but her environment affects the way she looks. She does not follow the latest craze emanating from the catwalks. Instead, she favors timeless labels and cuts. As every crab knows, trends are like tides, and they don’t last long. Truly feminine, she is stylish, but will maintain a somewhat conservative wardrobe, preferring traditional outfits with an emphasis on femininity and comfort. Sensitive to criticism, she’ll dress up to look good, but not enough to be the center of attention. Pale blue and silvers are favored by the Cancer woman and these may be reflected in her clothing styles and home décor. You might even find some interesting Moon and stars themes in her home.
There is something comforting about friendships with a Cancer woman, and you know she will be there looking after you should you ever need her. Others are attracted to her natural warmth, but puzzled by her changing moods. Your Cancer friend’s fragile feelings can sometimes be trampled on by a careless, clumsy comment, so tactless, rude, and inconsiderate people need not apply. She is easily moved to tears. Ms. Cancer laughs just as easily, and has a goofy, wonderful sense of humor. She is tickled by the ridiculous and her laugh is infectious. It’s hard not to join in once she has started. Family and friends are high priority and her home environment is where she feels the most secure. The Cancer woman is a natural mother, though that may not always mean she will have children. She will be nurturing in whatever role she takes on. One of the ways she expresses her love for her nearest and dearest is to feed them, and wonderful food will come from her kitchen. To cook is something she does almost as naturally as breathe – or eat – and she is able to whip up some scrumptious meals.
The Cancer woman is a very sensual woman with deep emotions and passion brewing underneath the exterior. To reach these will require time, patience and tenderness. Do not expect to have her open up to you right away and jump into a relationship. She’s slow to fall in love and refuses to be rushed. It takes time for Cancerians to learn to trust another, and the crab is shy and reserved when it comes to matters of the heart. This is why the Crab has her defensive and protective shell in place, to avoid being hurt by others. She can be sweet and flirty as you engage in a gentle, flirtatious dance together while the relationship builds. Once there is a solid, secure foundation, the richness of the relationship will emerge.
For any Cancer woman, romance is part and parcel of love – the gifts, flowers, and love notes that form the traditional woo-and-win process are essential to her. Her idea of a perfect partner is someone who loves to snuggle on the couch together, watch television, and pour wine for her. She does love being catered to by a lover, probably because she does so much caring for and pampering of others in her life. She needs to have an emotional connection, but lovers can find her emotions to be too much to cope with. She needs a strong partner, one with the depth to see that there is nothing to fear. Security and fidelity are the most important aspects of a relationship to the crab. Another water sign, Scorpio or Pisces, or her own opposite sign of Capricorn, will understand.
The right lover can unlock the magic key to an ocean of love. Sex is a slow, sensual dance with the Cancer woman. Her hidden flamboyance and responsiveness may be surprising, but remember that still waters run deep in your Cancer lover. She loves seduction and sensual fantasies. She enjoys being made love to and is eager to learn. Expect sex with Cancer to be a fully encompassing sexual experience. Lots of tender foreplay, massages afterwards, candles lit by the bedside, soft music in the background, delicious smells, everything to appeal to all senses. Sex is always attuned with love for her, and bedroom encounters with this water sign are usually pure liquid pleasure.
Those she loves will always feel loved and protected and safe with her- she has that quality. She is patient and will persevere in the face of any obstacle for the cause of true love. Nothing describes this woman better than “home is where the heart is”. The most important things in a Cancer woman’s life are her home and family. Her home will not just be her own sanctuary, but a sanctuary for all those she loves and she will be fiercely protective of it. The Cancer woman makes an exceptional partner. With the right person, she will toss caution to the wind and show you more adventure than you thought possible.
The Cancer Man
Tough outside, soft inside – that’s the Cancer man. This tender and loving gentleman might put up a rough exterior to protect himself from emotional harm, but his good heart and willingness to help others make him an endearing friend. It can be difficult to pick out a Cancer man from a first impression. He may be nervous and fickle one minute, then extremely confident the next. These mood shifts are influenced by the lunar phases of the moon. Transformations such as these are not indicative of a split personality like Gemini, but a changeable one. Always polite and a little worldly, this sign is the epitome of old school gentlemanly manners. The Cancer man is like a giant black hole with endless emotional means. They have emotional, caring, and sensitive traits. Like good wine, the Cancer man’s understanding of himself deepens and improves with maturity.
It’s hard for this moody, introverted, changeable, imaginative man to feel entirely secure being himself. He always wears camouflage. Cancer’s two best camouflages are the hard rational thinker and the jolly extrovert. Don’t be fooled by either of them – they’re just a mood. To live so close to the forces and currents of the inner imaginal and emotional world is a great challenge for a Cancer man. Here lies the source of his greatest creativity, but it can take a long time – and some painful experiences – for his gifts to fully emerge.
Cancer is a sign of fertile imagination and deep emotional needs. They don’t like to stand alone. Cancer men are often eternally searching for that nurturing, protecting partner who will always forgive and understand them – especially if they didn’t find it in childhood. Love is the ultimate mystery to the Cancer man and one that he is always trying to attain. His shyness and innate distrust of others makes it difficult for the Cancerian to allow himself to fall in love. From outside they may seem arrogant but in reality they are not. They like to hide their feelings. One thing you will need to remember is that if you are in a relationship with a Cancerian, your man will never like to express his needs to you. You yourself should understand it. Otherwise he may get hurt. He requires tenderness and reassurance, or else he might swim away from you, disappointed, hurt, and vowing never to trust another again. His guards are always up when it comes to his emotions, and few Cancer men fall in love at first sight, or even believe in the concept.
When he finds the partner of his dreams, the Cancer man will throw himself into the romance of the situation, buying flowers, riding white horses, and slaying metaphorical dragons for them. The traditional side of this man means that he will shower his partner with thoughtful gifts, wine and dine them in the best restaurants, and try to grant their every wish. He’s a romantic hero, and can feel what his partner needs. Have you ever had a guy just reach out and link his arm through yours, or throw his arm across your shoulders, making you feel totally safe, secure and loved? Maybe he squeezes a little too hard, pulls you a little too close. But you don’t mind.
His incredible intuition for others’ thoughts and feelings translates into a sensitive, skilful lover. The person who said “The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach” was obviously referring to a Cancer. He will customarily make a trip to the grocery store to get ready for a big date. You’ll find him filling up his cart with exotic fruit and whipped cream. Making love in the kitchen always ignites his deepest fantasies, so by all means surrender amid the salad makings! The Cancer man wants to please. In fact, nothing turns him on more than the fact that you are turned on. He is, without doubt, the most unselfish and considerate lover in the zodiac. Romance and sex go together for him. Show your appreciation to your generous Cancer lover by seducing him near water (Cancer is a water sign), perhaps on a deserted beach or on a private yacht. Kidnap your beloved and whisk him off to the shore, and be sure to pack a basket of goodies and don your little red riding hood cape–with little or nothing on underneath!
Possessing a high capacity to love, the Cancer man makes an exceptional partner. With the right person, he will toss caution to the wind and show you more adventure than you thought possible. A family man at heart, your Cancer loves children, roots, and sees home as a haven. When traveling he is prone to get homesick, even in this day and age. Chivalry comes as second nature to these traditionalists. He will take the garbage out, fix that wobbly shelf, navigate on road trips, and kill bugs for his partner, and most important of all he will do it all without being asked. His own devotion to a partner is unquestionable and he will expect the same in return. Infidelities are never tolerated by the Cancer man, and he would sooner leave a relationship than try to swallow his hurt feelings and work towards a resolution. A dependable provider, the Cancer man values a strong family unit and enjoys his time at home. His loyalty and keen attention to the needs and wants of his lover make the Crab one of the best partners of the zodiac.
Image: “Sign of Zodiac Cancer” by Iribel